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Why Your In-Person Charisma Disappears Online (And How to Fix It)

Posted By Elaine Walsh-McGrath, Managing Director, 08 July 2025

The real reason brilliant leaders feel invisible despite their success

You walk into a room and people listen.

In meetings, your insights land. When you speak at industry events, people approach you afterward wanting to continue the conversation. Your team follows your vision, and your clients trust your judgment.

You're magnetic in person. Authentic. Real.

So why does creating content feel like speaking through cotton wool? Why do your LinkedIn posts sound like they were written by a corporate robot? And why does building a "personal brand" make you want to hide under your desk?

Here's what I've learned after helping CEOs and MDs for years: You're not broken. The advice is.

 

The Personal Brand Myth That's Killing Your Visibility

Let me guess what you've been told about building your personal brand:

"Post consistently!" (Even when you have nothing meaningful to say)

"Share your expertise!" (In 3-bullet-point formats that drain your soul)

"Be authentic!" (While following content templates that make everyone sound the same)

"Tell your story!" (Using frameworks that strip out everything interesting about you)

No wonder it feels awful. You're trying to squeeze your leadership presence through a content creation meat grinder designed for people building from scratch.

But you're not building from scratch. You're already successful. You just can't figure out how to translate your real-world presence to the digital world.

 

The Translation Problem

After 25+ years managing campaigns for L'Oréal, Ryanair, and global brands worth millions, I know something about communication that works under pressure.

The problem isn't that you lack presence. The problem is translation.

You know how to read a room, but you don't know how to read an algorithm.

You know how to have strategic conversations, but you don't know how to have strategic conversations with an audience you can't see.

You know how to position your thinking in boardrooms, but you freeze when trying to position your thinking in a post.

You're not less charismatic online. You're using the wrong approach.

 

What Actually Happens in Those Magnetic Moments

Think about the last time someone said "I never thought about it that way" after talking with you.

What were you doing?

  • You weren't following a content template
  • You weren't trying to sound "professional"
  • You weren't worried about what everyone would think
  • You were responding to something specific
  • You were sharing your actual perspective
  • You were being yourself, just focused

That's strategic visibility. Not performing. Not pretending. Just being yourself with intention.

 

The Charisma Translation Framework

Your in-person charisma comes from three things that absolutely translate online:

1. You Have Opinions (And You're Not Afraid to Share Them)

In person, you don't hedge every statement. You don't say "I think maybe possibly this might be true if market conditions align."

You say "Here's what I've learned after 15 years in this industry..."

Online? Same energy. Stop hedging.

2. You Connect Ideas in Ways Others Don't

In conversations, you draw connections between seemingly unrelated things. You say "This reminds me of when..." or "The pattern I'm seeing here is..."

That's your strategic thinking in action. That's what makes people lean in.

Online? Share those connections. They're content gold.

3. You Respond to What's Actually Happening

In person, you're not delivering prepared speeches. You're responding to the room, the moment, the specific challenge someone just mentioned.

Online? Stop trying to create content in a vacuum. Respond to industry developments, conversations you're having, problems you're solving.

 

The Strategic Shift That Changes Everything

Here's the shift that transforms everything: Stop creating content. Start having conversations.

Instead of asking "What should I post?" ask "What conversation am I already having that would be valuable for others to hear?"

Instead of "How do I build my personal brand?" ask "How do I extend the conversations I'm already great at having?"

Instead of "What's my content strategy?" ask "What's my conversation strategy?"

 

Real Strategic Visibility in Action

Instead of: "5 tips for leadership in challenging times"

Try: "Had three different CEOs tell me this week they're struggling with the same thing. Here's the pattern I'm seeing..."

Instead of: "Excited to share my thoughts on industry transformation"

Try: "Someone asked me yesterday why I think most digital transformations fail. Honest answer: because they're not actually transformation projects. They're technology projects with transformation marketing."

Instead of: "Grateful for another successful quarter"

Try: "Two years ago, a potential client told me our approach would never work in their industry. This week, their biggest competitor hired us to do exactly what we proposed. Markets change faster than opinions."

See the difference? Same insights. Same you. Just translated from conversation to content.

 

The Permission You've Been Waiting For

You don't need to become a content creator. You're already a strategic thinker.

You don't need to build a personal brand. You already have a reputation.

You don't need to be more authentic. You need to be more intentional about showing your authentic thinking to people who need to see it.

Your charisma isn't missing online. It's just trapped behind advice that was never designed for someone like you.

 

The Strategic Question

So here's what I want you to consider:

What would happen if you brought the same confidence you have in boardrooms to your online presence?

What opportunities would notice you? What conversations would you be invited into? What impact could you make if the right people actually knew how you think?

Because when your digital presence matches your real-world presence, everything changes.

The opportunities that should be yours? They start finding you.



Photo credit: Elaine Walsh McGrath

Tags:  networking tips  online visibility  women in business 

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Labour’s proposals to reform the current law surrounding cohabiting couples. How does this affect women in business?

Posted By Lucy Hart, Director, 18 January 2024
Labour's proposals for overhauling the existing laws governing cohabiting couples, announced by Emily Thornberry, Shadow Attorney General, during the Labour Party Conference on 10 October 2023, hold particular significance for women business owners. In the event of Labour securing the public's mandate in the upcoming general election, they intend to reshape the legal landscape for cohabiting couples, although the specific details of these reforms remain undisclosed.
Notably, Labour is committed to enacting laws designed to safeguard the financially vulnerable party within cohabiting relationships. This aligns with the longstanding advocacy of organisations like the Law Commission and Resolution, spanning over two decades. The proposed changes are poised to address the financial hardships faced by individuals lacking protection within the current legal framework.

According to a recent publication by the Office for National Statistics, the number of cohabiting couples in the UK has surged by 144% since 1996, reaching a current count of 3.6 million. This growth underscores the increasing prevalence of cohabitation as a family structure, necessitating comprehensive financial protection within family law, especially for women who may find themselves in precarious situations post-separation.

The Women and Equalities Committee's 2022 report exposed a widespread belief in the UK regarding the so-called 'common law marriage' myth. Many individuals erroneously assume they enjoy the same financial safeguards as their married or civilly partnered counterparts. Unfortunately, this misconception often becomes apparent only when it is too late to rectify the situation.

Despite recommendations for reforms outlined in the Committee's report to ensure fairness and equality, the proposals faced rejection from the incumbent government. In a November 2022 response, the Conservative Government asserted the need to finalise ongoing work on marriage and divorce law before addressing cohabitation issues.

Lucy Hart, Director and Family Lawyer at Sinclair Law, views Labour's announcement as a positive stride in the ongoing campaign for legal reform in this domain. Jo Edwards, Chair of Resolution’s Family Law Reform Group, expresses enthusiasm, describing it as a "hugely welcome development" for cohabiting couples and practitioners alike. Graeme Frase, Chair of Resolution’s Cohabitation Committee, adds that the announcement represents a favourable step in the right direction for addressing the significant hardships resulting from the current outdated legal framework.

Our expert lawyers can help you with co-habitation and all aspects of family law. Rated Excellent on Google and Review Solicitors. Request a free 30-minute consultation at www.sinclairlaw.co.uk 
 

Tags:  cohabitation  co-habitation  cohabiting couples  familylaw  law reform  women in business 

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Financial Implications of Divorce for Women Business Owners

Posted By Lucy Hart, Director, 16 November 2023

Women entrepreneurs have made remarkable strides in the business world, displaying resilience, determination, and innovation. However, when faced with divorce, they often encounter unique challenges, especially concerning their businesses. Divorce is a significant life event that can have far-reaching financial implications. For women entrepreneurs, the complexities of separating personal and business assets can be daunting. In this blog, we will explore the unique challenges faced by women business owners during divorce proceedings and provide valuable insights on how to navigate the financial implications effectively.

Business Valuation:

In most cases, businesses and their value are included within the assets to be shared within the divorce settlement, even if one spouse has never been involved in the business. If the business is considered a marital asset, it will be subject to division between the spouses. One of the primary challenges women business owners encounter during divorce is determining the value of their business. Business valuation methods can vary, and it's crucial to choose the right approach tailored to the specific type of business. Factors like revenue, assets, intellectual property, and market trends must be meticulously analysed. Engaging financial professionals with expertise in business valuation can provide an accurate assessment.

"Divorce can have significant financial implications for women business owners. It's essential to assess the value of the business accurately and fairly. Proper evaluation is key to ensuring an equitable division of assets."

Protecting Business Interests:

Safeguarding the business is paramount. Legal documentation plays a pivotal role in protecting a woman's business during divorce proceedings. Having well-drafted contracts, partnership agreements, and clear ownership records can prevent disputes and streamline the division of assets. Updating these documents regularly ensures that the business's interests are protected, even in the event of a divorce.

"One common challenge women face during divorce is maintaining the stability of their businesses. It's vital to plan ahead and seek legal advice to safeguard your business interests. Collaboration with financial experts can help assess the business's value and determine the best strategies to protect it." - Lucy Hart, Family Law Solicitor and Director of Sinclair Law.

Spousal Support:

Women business owners may be concerned about the financial obligations related to spousal support. During divorce proceedings, the court considers the financial contributions of both spouses to the marriage. It's vital to maintain detailed financial records, clearly showcasing the business's income, expenses, and profits. This transparency helps in negotiating fair and just support terms, ensuring the sustainability of both parties’ post-divorce.

Tax Implications:

Divorce can have significant tax implications, particularly when dividing assets or selling the business, such as capital gains tax. Women business owners should consult with tax professionals to understand the tax implications of dividing assets, selling the business, or transferring ownership. Proper tax planning can minimise the financial impact of divorce.

Planning for the Future:

Post-divorce, women business owners need to reassess their business goals and financial strategies. Creating a solid business plan, revisiting financial projections, and exploring growth opportunities can help rebuild and strengthen the business. Additionally, seeking financial advice to manage personal finances and investments is crucial for long-term stability.

Whilst you cannot prevent your business interest being included in a divorce settlement, you can protect your business in a divorce in the following ways:

  • A Post Nuptial Agreement or Separation Agreement which can ringfence business assets and may help to limit acrimony in the future;
  • Keep the household finances separate to the company as this can assist on a practical basis;
  • Sacrifice other assets as part of the overall divorce settlement – this is known as offsetting. It is beneficial to a spouse wanting to retain control of their business or business interest.

Lucy says, "Entrepreneurs often invest significant time and effort into their businesses, making it a deeply personal endeavour. Emotions can run high during divorce, making it essential to remain focused on the practical aspects. Separating emotions from business decisions is critical for making informed choices that will shape your financial future." 

Collaborative divorce processes, such as mediation or arbitration, can be beneficial for women business owners. These methods encourage open communication, allowing couples to reach agreements amicably. Maintaining a cooperative approach can lead to more favourable outcomes for both parties involved.

Divorce can be a challenging journey for women business owners, but with the right legal guidance and financial planning, it is possible to navigate the process successfully. By approaching divorce with a strategic mindset and seeking expert legal advice, women entrepreneurs can protect their businesses and secure their financial future.

For a free 30-minute consultation visit www.sinclairlaw.co.uk or call 01625 526 222.  Offices based in Wilmslow and Bramhall.

 

Tags:  business owner  divorce  family law  financial settlement  post nuptial agreement  separation  separation agreement  women in business 

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