Feeling unfulfilled?

Not living out your full potential? The following quote is from the book 'Conversations with God' by S.D Walsch ''Hell is the opposite of joy, it is the unfulfillment, it is knowing who and what you are and failing to experience that, it is being less, that is hell and there is none greater for your soul''.

A bit about me

My history is in cancer nursing, I went onto an oncology ward as soon as I qualified at the age of 22. I stayed in that unit becoming the ward sister and then later moved hospitals to be a Cancer Nurse Specialist. That period of my life gave me far more than I ever gave the job or the patients it must have paid me back a thousandfold. It was at times the hardest job ever, but at the same time uplifting and positive. I can remember on many occasions, bursting into tears at the slightest thing, seemingly blowing it out of proportion, but I soon learnt that to release the stress 'Crying over spilt milk was a safety value. What it did do was teach me what my values were and that anything is possible if you align what you are doing with the values you hold. It also taught me valuable lessons about priorities, and when I read the book ''What the dying say before they die'' I completely understood and agreed with the author, that the following are the most common things you hear.

I wish...

I wish I'd had the courage to live the live true to myself, not the life others expected of me. To do this takes a lot of courage, but also a lot of self awareness and self discipline. You may be happy enough with your life, relationships, and jobs, but what if there was something better, more rewarding that you could be doing? Sorting out a personal brand can help you on this road of self awareness, who you are, and what your skills, talents, and experience you have that can take you where you want to go.

I wish hadn't worked so hard. You can go through life thinking that work is something to be endured. Lots of creative people say though ''I was lucky, work never felt like work because it was my passion, hobby, the thing I loved to do'' (think artists, singers, dancers). We all find work easier if we are working in our talent and strength areas, do you know what yours are? It is said that so long as we work hard enough at something, we can become good at it shown in the American saying ''You can be anything you want to be'', I don't think is true. You cannot be anything you want to be BUT you can be a lot more who you already are! Most people think they know what they're good at, they are usually wrong, learning what you are good at naturally means you can be amazing at what you do, and inevitably that feels easier.

I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. I wish I could say that I had a magic wand for this one, but, I think, it comes down to believing in yourself and being proud of who you are. If you are proud of something you find it so much easier to show and talk about it. Learning about yourself makes you realise, that you are unique and that your feelings, wants and fears are as valuable as everyone else's.

I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends. This is a hard one, it usually comes down to not having enough time. We all have friends who were friends at a particular time in our life, like the mothers/fathers of our children's friends at school. It is natural for some friendships to come to an end. But not all, sometimes it happens because of bad time management on both sides. Time management is about learning how to manage your time! We need to get out of the BUSYness of business. It is an interesting task to work out exactly what we do in a day, track it absolutely, and then work out what you can delegate, buy in or even, just not do. Put friend's time into the diary the same as for family time, put the time into the diary.

I wish that I had let myself be happier. Our brains are geared to keep us safe, not happy. Being happy is a choice, it's not there all the time, nor should it be, otherwise we'd never recognise it when it arrives. Self awareness isn't easy, it takes work. It is made far easier when you have someone helping you, but above all, it makes the process so much quicker, which addresses the time management part of giving you the life you want. Finding your talents, skills, and values is part of your Personal Brand and it is the first thing I address with my clients, which is great for their business, but more importantly, it is great for their life in general.

Don't spend your life wishing and not doing

Do book a chat with me if you are intrigued to discover your uniqueness and define a clear personal brand.

Love Sally x

Sally Inkster Finding Brand YOU!

What is a Personal Brand? ''It's who you are, your values and beliefs and the ENERGY you bring to all you do''